Tuesday, June 28, 2005

For whom the bell tolls

Today is Jeff’s Funeral. I’m not going. I did think some more about it and I’m not not going merely to avoid inconveniencing [...]. He’s being cremated in Scarborough and then there’s a do (a junk food buffet, which symbolises Jeff’s legendary unhealthy diet) at The Shambles, which involves stairs. So very long day, and it’s going to be very traumatic. To be honest, I don’t feel strong enough in myself, before we get to the risk of my presence detracting from what other people get out of it.

In a few weeks time they are going to put his ashes in a Viking style long boat, ignite it and set it out to sea. There’s an article about this in The Whitby Gazette, which includes a rather blurry picture of Jeff. I might be able to go down to the beach watch this; we’ll see.

Anyway, I don’t know what I’ll do today, I imagine it may be business as usual for me. I might have a quiet time in the afternoon.

A person called Tinbasher pointed me towards this poem which I thought I would share with you.

For Whom The Bell Tolls - John Donne

No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manner of thine own
Or of thine friend's were.
Each man's death diminishes me,
For I am involved in mankind.
Therefore, send not to know
For whom the bell tolls,
It tolls for thee.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Hi Goldfish,

hope that your dau went as well as it could. Even though you did not attend am sure it took up a lot of your day in thoughts etc.

Completely diff scenaro, but smilar in the energy/access and "up all day" stakes, was my SL's wedding on Saturday, am still recovering from it and mu pain levels have been increased since..So probably a very wise decision on your part.



ps, Hope my email reached you ok, asking as myy client seems to be a bit temprimental right now!