tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post3380629619482664394..comments2024-01-26T10:20:37.836+00:00Comments on Diary of a Goldfish: The Goldfish Guide To Dealing with Doubters #2The Goldfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-35446926197545941042009-03-12T02:49:00.000+00:002009-03-12T02:49:00.000+00:00"When people do things or fail to do things that m..."When people do things or fail to do things that means you, your health or happiness are put in danger, then the situation is hopeless."<BR/><BR/>Hmmm. Cornwall still beckons at times.seahorsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04006649663400552591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-76649235812796250522009-02-26T19:20:00.000+00:002009-02-26T19:20:00.000+00:00As a caregiver to my 10 year old daughter with hea...As a caregiver to my 10 year old daughter with health and mental complexities, I frequently encounter denial. I agree that people just do not have the coping skills to face our reality(ies). <BR/>I started carrying a business card in my purse that is really pretty and says "thanks for caring enough to ask" (polite way to say quit being nosey) and directs people to a caring bridge website where they can be updated and, maybe, learn to cope with someone who is experiencing a different reality. <BR/><BR/>It made me feel better because I could shut up the people who thought my daughter was deaf, apparently, by how they would ask "what is wrong with her?" right in front of her. Also, I could avoid having her made into nothing more than a curiosity by the conversations. She is a whole, adorable person and deserves the same dignity and respect we all do!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-15117286140747415682009-02-25T05:14:00.000+00:002009-02-25T05:14:00.000+00:00It is interesting to see how people "get it" over ...It is interesting to see how people "get it" over time--I do hope that it also adds to their empathy with others with chronic conditions.<BR/><BR/>I really hadn't thought about this as a denial issue--I mean, yes, people deny my reality, but I hadn't thought that sometimes it may come from their own ability to deal with it. Some of the biggest deniers of my health problems also refuse to deal with completely different issues when they come up. It is a coping mechanism, though it can have its effect on others.<BR/><BR/>My mother just recently said she really didn't understand how bad my pain was in my preteen years. Thus I'd get dragged through stores or on errands way past the point when now I would refuse, making me stand there through long conversations with people she knew. Ibuprofen came out about then and I thoroughly enjoyed it. I think I didn't complain enough--I thought just saying it hurt would be enough.<BR/><BR/>My sister said the same about my extremely colicky babies with severe reflux--now that she's babysitting one with these GI issues. She didn't realize how really difficult that was.FridaWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03321658097813377806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-28916076310237760052009-02-22T21:55:00.000+00:002009-02-22T21:55:00.000+00:00Seems there is nothing like a little difficulty in...Seems there is nothing like a little difficulty in life to make you really appreciate just how many "good people" there are in the world.<BR/><BR/> Just when things seem bleakest and one is completely "Cornered and possibly scorned new paths seem magically to open.<BR/><BR/> Although seemingly deliberately "isolated" from the local community I am now finding Real people in distant communities are appreciating and encouraging my artistic endevours.<BR/><BR/> Possibly even to the extent I'd love to be able to move to their seemingly isolated Southern regions but I doubt that will even happen and I'd possibly not survive their "frozen" Winters <BR/><BR/> My blog now deliberately avoids, as much as possible, tails of my minor tribbulations.Gone Fishinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03601595396241016724noreply@blogger.com