tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post2717191440050494701..comments2024-01-26T10:20:37.836+00:00Comments on Diary of a Goldfish: Compared to what?The Goldfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-88012909837307098362008-04-03T06:23:00.000+01:002008-04-03T06:23:00.000+01:00Of fishes of gold, the dearest...Thanks for the co...Of fishes of gold, the dearest...<BR/><BR/>Thanks for the compliment .. :-)<BR/><BR/>I am so intrigued by this post about looking and doing. Because looking and doing are externally connected too. If you look at certain way, society permits you to do. If you don't look "right" somehow, it becomes harder for you to do what you want.<BR/><BR/>I'd like to think that as disabled women we have become so attuned to the politics of the body that we can turn a highly critical eye on such stuff. But we can't. In someways, I think we can't -- or at least, i know I can't because I use my face and body to compensate for the disability stuff.<BR/><BR/>Sigh. Swings and roundabouts.<BR/><BR/>quick hug<BR/><BR/>WCDWheelchair Dancerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11981313345401954118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-81154249542185337272008-03-29T22:42:00.000+00:002008-03-29T22:42:00.000+00:00I hope you can join us on Change.org in our commun...I hope you can join us on Change.org in our community: "Support People with Disabilities"<BR/><BR/>http://www.change.org/changes/view/2154<BR/><BR/>Thanks,<BR/>Will H.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-38697912289118984362008-03-29T21:46:00.000+00:002008-03-29T21:46:00.000+00:00Thanks folks.Sara - Oh, I think the scar's kind of...Thanks folks.<BR/><BR/>Sara - Oh, I think the scar's kind of cool. You've certainly got some serious pirate kudos going for you there, although I imagine you'll need to make up a explanatory story involving a shark (<I>It had me head in its jaws, so pulled off me leg and struck it in the goolies</I> kind of thing).<BR/><BR/>Breast implants are something I really struggle to understand, for a variety of ideological, physical and aesthetic reasons. And yes, it is <I>sad</I> that a person feels the need to do something so drastic to make them feel better inside. I wouldn't stop them, but I would suggest a number of alternative strategies. <BR/><BR/>NTE - Thank you and sorry (kind of). I know exactly what you mean about the difference between what you think and what you feel...<BR/><BR/>Ruth - it is strange how this stuff still kicks around. Among disabled people, one might imagine we'd be far more comfortable as we are, but of course it is more complicated than that. <BR/><BR/>Mary - Exactly. And yes, they do all look the same don't they? Bring back Moira Stewart!<BR/><BR/>Andrea - Thank you. :-)The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-79492931539722707862008-03-29T15:20:00.000+00:002008-03-29T15:20:00.000+00:00(listening)(listening)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-60604526973735725112008-03-29T12:33:00.000+00:002008-03-29T12:33:00.000+00:00If it makes her happy to have bigger boobs, she ca...If it makes her happy to have bigger boobs, she can have bigger boobs, I don't give a monkeys' bum. Just like I don't care if she wants to wear makeup, or shave her legs, or dye her hair purple. She can look however she wants to look. I even get that in her role as a presenter, she wants to look much like the other presenters as she can (honestly, I have trouble telling most female newsreaders apart lately and I'm <I>sure</I> it's not just my brain).<BR/><BR/>I just got... well... more confused than angry, I must say... about it being linked in to her disability the way it was in that article. As if having bigger boobs was somehow going to mean that she suddenly <I>could</I> lift a pint of milk, or something. Like it should be part of standard therapy for disabled people.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11639094548415759560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-74139528390946741982008-03-29T12:27:00.000+00:002008-03-29T12:27:00.000+00:00You make a good point about the link about surger...You make a good point about the link about surgery for kids with Down syndrome - it is a different issue for adults and I also feel less strongly than I do when it's done on kids, who have no choice in the matter. <BR/><BR/>I'm glad you wrote about "wishing I looked like that" and "wishing I could do that" and how you don't differentiate between those. I don't either. <BR/><BR/>Reading this was a bit hard because I know I "have issues" with body image as a quad because when I played wheelchair tennis (against paraplegics) I was always trying to pass as a para, not a quad and some of that was about appearance - however I think it came back to function level and wishful thinking. For example, I didn't want to eat in front of anyone because I struggle a lot if my food isn't cut up for me. (Actually even if it is, I still struggle to eat physically.) Anyhow if I didn't eat, I could "pretend" I was a para.Was some of it about how it looked? Yeah, but it was also wishful thinking about function level.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00170658770134559035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-9628796678448902522008-03-29T02:10:00.000+00:002008-03-29T02:10:00.000+00:00This is such a strong post, and has got me thinkin...This is such a strong post, and has got me thinking about things I don't especially want to think about. Thanks for that ;) ... No, seriously, body image is such a hard concept for me, because I <I>think</I> one way about it, but I <I>feel</I> another way. I don't want to feel that way (the inferior way), but I do. And I think that you've really touched on a lot of interesting points here. Hmm, fishy, why must you make me think??Never That Easyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008749218695113192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-51625798084621828572008-03-28T23:40:00.000+00:002008-03-28T23:40:00.000+00:00The scar is okay! I will not be having plastic su...The scar is okay! I will not be having plastic surgery to reduce the appearance of the scar! ha ha ha <BR/><BR/>But I'm really happy not to have a brain tumor anymore, also. Thank you.<BR/><BR/>And I am still very, very sad about any woman getting breast implants. Because honey, I don't care who you are or what the rest of your body looks like; I swear you don't need them. Really. Promise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com