tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post2167062395934965021..comments2024-01-26T10:20:37.836+00:00Comments on Diary of a Goldfish: How to Support People in Abusive Relationships #1 TrustThe Goldfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-26853465231059273162014-09-09T19:29:46.912+01:002014-09-09T19:29:46.912+01:00Yes, of course! Yes, of course! The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-53506033218909989562014-09-09T19:23:25.140+01:002014-09-09T19:23:25.140+01:00Hello,
feminismus101.de is a website which transl...Hello,<br /><br />feminismus101.de is a website which translates great english feminist texts to german. <br /><br />So we'd love to use the translation from lightsneeze for our website (we already talked to her), if you are ok with that?<br /><br /><3feminismus101http://www.feminismus101.denoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-24684194777939259442014-07-09T12:10:56.572+01:002014-07-09T12:10:56.572+01:00Lightsneeze - Sorry it's taken me a while to s...Lightsneeze - Sorry it's taken me a while to see your comment, but yes, I'd be very happy if you're able to translate this easily and very pleased that you've found it helpful. :-)The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-48860168237486500582014-07-03T15:41:57.596+01:002014-07-03T15:41:57.596+01:00hi,
i hope, this doesn't sound weird so, like,...hi,<br />i hope, this doesn't sound weird so, like, out of the blue, but some people and i have been discussing articles about abuse recently, figuring that there're hardly any helpful posts in german, so i wondered if we might translate your articles (How to Support People in Abusive Relationships #1 and #2) into german(with link to the original post,of course)? i've been an abuse victim myself and i was like "yes...this..thiiiis...exactly" all the time when reading it and i'd love to provide this text to a non english speaking audience.<br />either way i'd like to thank you fors this so, so much. light sneezehttp://canisayno.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-598610982968088832012-09-26T11:21:34.143+01:002012-09-26T11:21:34.143+01:00Kay - thanks for your comment.
I understand this....Kay - thanks for your comment.<br /><br />I understand this. The brushes I had with mental ill health made me feel that my ex must have been some kind of saint for putting up with me. But in truth he simply took exploited those situations.<br /><br />I'm glad the post helped and glad that you were able to get away from that man.<br /><br />Kethry - I'm afraid, I can imagine this happening. My ex never accused my parents of abuse, but he certainly tried to make me believe that they didn't care about me very much, didn't really understand or respect me (I've written a little about this in the second post). I can well imagine someone with a little more creativity spinning our familial tensions into something more sinister. <br /><br />I'm very glad that you were able to go through these things with your folks and put those things to rest. <br /><br />GWTC - Thank you. :-)The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-49574470098759364172012-09-25T13:41:52.355+01:002012-09-25T13:41:52.355+01:00This is such a wonderful post. Thank you.This is such a wonderful post. Thank you.GirlWithTheCanehttp://www.girlwiththecane.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-83403433419919347992012-09-25T10:52:32.317+01:002012-09-25T10:52:32.317+01:00the other reason for not telling your loved one th...the other reason for not telling your loved one that they're being abused? horrible as it may sound, the abuser may actually be telling the abused person that they were abused.. by you. That happened to me with my ex; he found a diary i'd written at the age of 13. he went through it, pointing out the various times my parents had undermined my self confidence. I was lucky; my parents never told me i was being abused by him (although they could see something was wrong, my abuser essentially largely seperated me from my family until i was having minimal contact with them) so I was never placed in the position of having to choose between two conflicting sets of stories. It meant that when it ended, and my family were aware of what he had done to me, I actually asked them about all the incidents in my diary and cleared the air about them - in a sense, that was a fairly healthy thing to go through and I put many of my teenage hurts to bed with that process. I'm not sure I would have been able to do that if my parents had tried to "rescue" me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-12466783229505164702012-09-25T01:32:55.764+01:002012-09-25T01:32:55.764+01:00Thank you so much for this post. It has helped me...Thank you so much for this post. It has helped me to think about how various people in my life supported me to leave my abusive partner and how I was kept under his spell for so long. My boyfriend had helped me through a number of psychotic episodes so my feelings of gratitude towards him (and feelings of shame and worthlessness) were enormous. i won't go on, but I just wanted to say thank you, really, extremely, thank you.<br />KayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com