tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post989582976990594079..comments2024-01-26T10:20:37.836+00:00Comments on Diary of a Goldfish: This is the Real World #2 Social ConfidenceThe Goldfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-69062332488332815812009-08-17T03:05:08.554+01:002009-08-17T03:05:08.554+01:00This resonated with me for different reasons.
As...This resonated with me for different reasons. <br /><br />As an English expat in Singapore, working in a local, predominantly Chinese-speaking company, I often find myself unable to understand the social signals I am expected to respond to. <br /><br />A guy I met in a pub (don’t all the best anecdotes start like that?) explained this in terms of psychological contracts. Our interactions with other people involve short-term, unspoken contracts, in which we agree to meet each other’s social expectations. <br /><br />If we don’t understand that contract its terms are breached, and the interaction becomes something to be wary of for one or both parties. (I didn’t ask the guy about his background, but my money’s on sociology grad ;-) )<br /><br />Notably since emigrating, my time spent online has increased a lot. Part of this though is because the internet now provides the only regular contact with my in-real-life UK friends. I’m not really plugged into any S’pore digital life yet.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-33251793663279601012009-08-09T21:39:00.421+01:002009-08-09T21:39:00.421+01:00Thank you all for your comments. It's always a...Thank you all for your comments. It's always a great relief when I realise I'm not the only one! ;-)The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-6143428417269072792009-08-06T13:35:13.312+01:002009-08-06T13:35:13.312+01:00There's also a key point the ArBish missed: &q...There's also a key point the ArBish missed: "Comments like the Archbishop's about social networking undermining community life strike me as particularly ironic"... what about <em>online</em> communities?<br /><br />I am a member of several communities (from a loose collection of bloggers who have some interests/beliefs in common to more specific things like my being a moderator of accessifyforum) but in each of those communities, people tend to watch out for one another and help each other where possible. <br /><br />That to me is what community spirit is precisely <em>about</em> and again shows the problem of people who don't <em>get</em> technology talking about it. If you hate twitter, or facebook, or whatever, you're not particularly likely to have understood the benefits it brings to some people...JackPhttp://www.thepickards.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-59649036387920093912009-08-06T12:49:43.890+01:002009-08-06T12:49:43.890+01:00The Thought for the Day from Rev Giles Fraser last...The Thought for the Day from Rev Giles Fraser last week was a response to the Archbishop's comments, and Fraser made some positive and sensible remarks about networking sites, although not particularly the ones you have discussed here. You can read the text of Fraser's comments <a href="http://www.bbc.co.uk/religion/programmes/thought/documents/t20090803.shtml" rel="nofollow">here</a>.<br /><br />I'm not usually a Thought for the Day listener, but this one caught my attention because I thought "Goldfish would have a field day!".<br /><br />--IPIrrationalPointhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18079777358354337933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-79962285479480083732009-08-06T11:09:58.673+01:002009-08-06T11:09:58.673+01:00As ever, an insightful and well written post. Meth...As ever, an insightful and well written post. Methinks the Archbishop would do well to spend some time in the blogosphere...he may well learn something about human nature!<br /><br />Well done!Gary Millerhttp://www.the-dogs-blog.co.uk/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-13791511944061116292009-08-05T21:55:50.239+01:002009-08-05T21:55:50.239+01:00LOVED this post...! I'm not much of a comment...LOVED this post...! I'm not much of a commenter, but definitely wanted to acknowledge this one. Not sure whether my favorite bit was a zombie to nervous to get close enough to eat your brains, or your rap over the Archbishop's knuckles!Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04536023394656642461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-71319939975198754012009-08-05T14:51:00.666+01:002009-08-05T14:51:00.666+01:00Thanks for this post, it's very good. If a per...Thanks for this post, it's very good. If a person is not 'getting out much', or getting out but not really interacting for whatever reason (I still think that society shouldn't assume speech is the only acceptable form of communication / the only proof of intelligence)... in such a case, the internet (and emails) can be educative and even confidence-inspiring. What would one have instead of that? Probably nothing apart from TV and books... and they're a bit one-sided.Diddumshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12051434108734790961noreply@blogger.com