tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post8390083531502383042..comments2024-01-26T10:20:37.836+00:00Comments on Diary of a Goldfish: Blogging Against Disablism Day will be on 1st May, 2012The Goldfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comBlogger93125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-17027922702652894862012-08-13T16:58:04.274+01:002012-08-13T16:58:04.274+01:00Sad to discover I missed this. Have been catching...Sad to discover I missed this. Have been catching up on the other amazing posts people have written though. Will plan on joining BADD 2013.Tim Shttp://www.rollxvans.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-19988360393916485262012-07-04T17:36:16.080+01:002012-07-04T17:36:16.080+01:00The Disablism of Cruel Endings
Let’s face it all r...The Disablism of Cruel Endings<br />Let’s face it all relationships end badly - either in death, separation or divorce, what right have I got to think this one was any different?. I’m an intelligent woman, most say I’m attractive and usually the life of the party. But at 40 I’m yet to experience a ‘real’ relationship, if such a thing exists. I was born with Cerebral Palsy and although only mild, it has at times been a significant barrier to a normal life. As we have aged, an unspoken fear of genuine independence has galvanised my parents and I into inaction. Strange reactions, since my disability has not dominated my life to the extent that I feel, think or act like I am incapable. All of this was fine, the problem as getting others to understand it, and as a woman, especially men.<br />I’ve had very little experience with men, I can flirt with the best of them and have lots of male friends, but I’ve experienced every kind of rejection. From that questioning ‘can she do it?’ look to a guy freaking out at my difficulty at rolling over and jumping out of bed. As a result I had developed a poisoning scepticism that the right man would never come. I was around 36 when it finally materialised, surprisingly he was a friend of some 15 years. He was at that time 45 and in a relationship with a woman 20 years his junior. In many ways they were well suited but their differences became obvious as their relationship progressed. Looking back on it, like a fool I fell for his sob stories and unwaveringly supported them through an unplanned pregnancy and his doubts about impending parenthood as well as every sneeze, cough or fart they couldn’t cope with. At the time I welcomed the mentoring role I felt for once I was the strong and capable one, I felt useful, needed and wanted.<br />He and I enjoyed each other’s company in a way I never had before. It slowly became an affair, despite my inexperience I was realistic enough to recognise it as more an intellectual one than a sexual one. It was about confidence. I believed he was showing me I could be with anyone I wanted, that the barriers I had experienced in the past were more about my own fears than other people’s prejudices. <br />Our affair was a sporadic adventure that survived more than 2 years but it died a natural death. I was very pragmatic about it, he was very attractive and charismatic and it felt good to be with him. At no stage did I have an expectation that I would be his next girlfriend, in fact I even met a couple of them. I liked these women and didn’t try to compete with them.<br />He had done so much to build my confidence but in minutes it was demolished. I was at his home meeting his latest squeeze, a high profile local community figure. All was going swimmingly when suddenly the mood changed. What happens next might seem in the scheme of things not that devastating but in context of the person I had grown to become under his tutelage, has left an indelible scar deeper than any surgeon’s knife. Although I still have no explanation as to why, I was, in no uncertain terms asked to leave. Rather than slap him in the face and turn on my heel and walk out I needed help getting into my wheelchair. Little flexibility in my legs means I’ve always had difficulty putting my shoes on, so he had to do that too. I have suffered no greater indignity or humiliation than to be forcibly removed from his house. That woman sitting there watching as I was wheeled out, my head down, stripped of all dignity and control. Put away. Got rid of. Unwanted. Humiliated by the one person I never expected would ever label me with Disablism. I will get over the fact our friendship ended and that he never wants to see me again, but how do I get over the indignity and humiliation?Sitting Ducknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-10552339126205037352012-05-04T08:45:10.689+01:002012-05-04T08:45:10.689+01:00Have written a post for the Nordic Network on Disa...Have written a post for the Nordic Network on Disability Research (NNDR) blog on the contribution disability studies can and should make to challenging disablism <br />http://nndr.org/2012/05/01/blogging-against-disablism-day-1st-may-2012/#more-358<br />HannahHannah Morganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15441815494942734762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-30022779883257751702012-05-04T03:54:35.152+01:002012-05-04T03:54:35.152+01:00I know I'm late, but here's my post for th...I know I'm late, but here's my post for this year - http://teachingall.blogspot.com/2012/05/badd-blending-in.htmlAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10175486897439267229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-36940742593258982602012-05-01T21:40:51.169+01:002012-05-01T21:40:51.169+01:00Just posted about disabilism and inclusive practic...Just posted about disabilism and inclusive practices! <br /><br />http://jennifersommerness.wordpress.com/2012/05/01/blogging-against-disabilism-day-badd/Jennifer Sommernesshttp://jennifersommerness.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-4498673994227160652012-05-01T21:37:43.257+01:002012-05-01T21:37:43.257+01:00I have written a ridiculously long post on the lac...I have written a ridiculously long post on the lack of new-build neighourhoods offering accessible family housing in Canada. I believe that this is a silent and ongoing form of segregation. It may not be intentional but it is still wrong.<br />Believe it or not I'm actually funny in person...<br />http://intractableandimplacable.blogspot.ca/90 pounds of angryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00579107364224963230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-51742180456442266052012-05-01T21:12:43.063+01:002012-05-01T21:12:43.063+01:00Hi. I would like to be added, please. I have writt...Hi. I would like to be added, please. I have written a blog. It's my first. Thankyou.<br /><br />http://pissedoff11.blogspot.co.uk/2012/05/i-am-not-nutter.htmlpissedoff2011https://www.blogger.com/profile/02657699329444089891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-73595377302350506012012-05-01T21:11:59.517+01:002012-05-01T21:11:59.517+01:00My BADD post, The Price of Hate, is up at Where...My BADD post, The Price of Hate, is up at Where's the Benefit? http://wheresthebenefit.blogspot.co.uk/2012/05/price-of-hate-badd2012.html<br /><br />I've been trying to write this since Christmas, BADD finally gave me the impetus to do it.DavidGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11734028655032503805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-10784338448308716882012-05-01T16:09:03.945+01:002012-05-01T16:09:03.945+01:00Thanks for hosting this event. I know it is an eno...Thanks for hosting this event. I know it is an enormous amount of work.<br /><br />I have published a piece entitled "Disability, Identity, and Loss".<br />Here is the URL: http://wp.me/pTjho-8Q <br /><br />Again, thanks for doing this. I feel honored to be a part of it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-64207566625589490332012-05-01T15:27:11.213+01:002012-05-01T15:27:11.213+01:00Everyone at Pat's Petition says how great it i...Everyone at Pat's Petition says how great it is to take part in Blogging Against Disablism Day! <br /> <br />Please share and get every one to sign Pat's Petition at -<br /> <br />http://epetitions.direct.gov.uk/petitions/20968 <br /> <br />Share button on petition<br /> <br />Also see Pat's Petition on FaceBook<br /> <br />http://www.facebook.com/patsepetitionAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-50019555068255467062012-05-01T15:03:18.480+01:002012-05-01T15:03:18.480+01:00Hello there! My name is Kate Bennell and I work fo...Hello there! My name is Kate Bennell and I work for the charity Sightsavers. I started blogging about life with a disability on the Sightsavers website last year and have written a blog about discrimination (negative and positive) in the workplace for BADD - I hope you enjoy reading it. <br /><br />http://sightsavers.co.uk/our_work/how_we_work/meet_the_people/18237.htmlKate Bennellhttp://sightsavers.co.uk/our_work/how_we_work/meet_the_people/17276.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-22555070592334249192012-05-01T15:02:38.648+01:002012-05-01T15:02:38.648+01:00My post for Blogging Against Dis is complete. My a...My post for Blogging Against Dis is complete. My apologies for it's length!90 pounds of angryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00579107364224963230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-53391114764388545302012-05-01T14:35:05.918+01:002012-05-01T14:35:05.918+01:00Oops, that link won't work. This one should do...Oops, that link won't work. This one should do it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-78019220627367460262012-05-01T14:32:20.910+01:002012-05-01T14:32:20.910+01:00This comment has been removed by the author.Michael Watsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08229008461457577003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-80674706888138582902012-05-01T10:42:39.370+01:002012-05-01T10:42:39.370+01:00Ok here's my 1st ever Blog for BADD - Blue Bad...Ok here's my 1st ever Blog for BADD - Blue Badge Vigilante's <br />http://but-you-dont-look-sick.blogspot.co.uk/<br /><br />Thanks cant wait to read them all laterFibrogirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07271833740620599470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-77833170393476877702012-05-01T10:32:31.170+01:002012-05-01T10:32:31.170+01:00I have published my post on Aversive Disablism, We...I have published my post on <a href="http://ukwebfocus.wordpress.com/2012/05/01/aversive-disablism-web-accessibility-and-the-web-developer/" rel="nofollow">Aversive Disablism, Web Accessibility and the Web Developer</a> which poses the question: "<strong>are web developers and web authors who have embraced WCAG guidelines unknowingly creating barriers for people with disabilities?</strong>".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-72797953292378807522012-05-01T09:44:20.926+01:002012-05-01T09:44:20.926+01:00Ok, I've done my post! It's here http://ps...Ok, I've done my post! It's here http://pseudo-living.blogspot.co.uk/2012/05/24-hours-in-my-life-badd-2012.html<br /><br />or my blogs URL is www.pseudo-living.blogspot.co.ukpseudodevianthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17628129534652957676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-39809341050665158162012-05-01T07:46:39.496+01:002012-05-01T07:46:39.496+01:00Terrified but suddenly in.
Savannah Logsdon-Brea...Terrified but suddenly in. <br /><br />Savannah Logsdon-Breakstone<br />http://crackedmirrorinshalott.wordpress.com/Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01574526958190180906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-92113039428255016722012-05-01T05:59:07.645+01:002012-05-01T05:59:07.645+01:00We're in! Youth - Fit to Lead: http://youthfit...We're in! Youth - Fit to Lead: http://youthfit2lead.wordpress.com/blog/Youth - Fit to Leadnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-83891216075659687412012-05-01T05:21:23.545+01:002012-05-01T05:21:23.545+01:00The team at AthletesFirst will be joining in - www...The team at AthletesFirst will be joining in - www.athletesfirst.ca <br /><br />Great idea - very much looking forward to it!Andreahttp://www.athletesfirst.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-20597579318748865032012-05-01T04:19:01.743+01:002012-05-01T04:19:01.743+01:00I've posted "Scared to Ask":
http:...I've posted "Scared to Ask":<br /><br /><br />http://anytimeyoga.wordpress.com/2012/04/30/scared-to-ask/Torihttp://anytimeyoga.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-64407663083173249282012-05-01T01:09:02.062+01:002012-05-01T01:09:02.062+01:00Thank everybody!
This year's Blogging Agains...Thank everybody! <br /><br /><b>This year's Blogging Against Disablism Day is now Underway</b>.<br /><br /><a href="http://blobolobolob.blogspot.com/2012/05/blogging-against-disablism-day-2012.html" rel="nofollow">Please click here to read the posts and add yours to the archive.</a>The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-35803147202720557252012-04-30T22:42:13.321+01:002012-04-30T22:42:13.321+01:00Sign up http://lisybabe.blogspot.co.uk and http://...Sign up http://lisybabe.blogspot.co.uk and http://wheresthebenefit.blogspot.co.ukLisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16714918894319998184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-18402761884895180002012-04-30T22:28:36.371+01:002012-04-30T22:28:36.371+01:00Oh my. It crept up on me. I will endeavor to post ...Oh my. It crept up on me. I will endeavor to post a new blog entry:<br /><br />http://www.slumberpartymovies.com<br /><br />But if I can't figure out how to work this into my blog's theme, I'll at least Storify something. I've been thinking a lot about disabilities, hidden and otherwise.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06276775280108568595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-53419352383291730112012-04-30T22:27:13.375+01:002012-04-30T22:27:13.375+01:00I wrote a big comment, then my phone ate it.
I fo...I wrote a big comment, then my phone ate it.<br /><br />I found out about this less than an hour ago. I intend to join in, on the subject of "I can manage, why can't you?" and "You close yesterday, you should today.". I've had a bit of experience with that recently.<br /><br />My blog is thewanderingmonster.wordpress.com . My post will go up a few hours after I get up, as I haven't written it yet. It is as yet untitled.kithttp://thewanderingmonster.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com