tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post7991567600527733891..comments2024-01-26T10:20:37.836+00:00Comments on Diary of a Goldfish: What it means to be Cisgender.The Goldfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-53386381220551354422014-02-12T14:57:01.302+00:002014-02-12T14:57:01.302+00:00Thankyou for this. I have been uncomfortable with ...Thankyou for this. I have been uncomfortable with the idea of being cisgendered (even though that's what I am, no escaping it) ever since I came across the concept.<br /><br />Basically it was because I don't conform to a lot of female stereotypes; I don't dress in a particularly 'girly' way for example. But, I do feel like a woman.<br /><br />What you say makes a lot of sense to me. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-27494661329163107062014-02-09T22:02:25.270+00:002014-02-09T22:02:25.270+00:00Hi Daniel, good to see you here!
The sliding sca...Hi Daniel, good to see you here! <br /><br />The sliding scale on sexuality is often called "The Kinsey Scale" - in <a href="http://blobolobolob.blogspot.co.uk/2013/12/its-okay-to-call-tom-daley-bisexual.html" rel="nofollow">my post about Tom Daley</a>, I'd noticed someone referring to their sexuality as "A Kinsey 4", which amused me because it's very specific and most people wouldn't know what they were talking about.<br /><br />It's really strange and sad when marginalised people have the courage to be themselves, but then get anxious about others who don't conform within the group. As a bisexual, I've seen plenty of folk insist that bisexuality can't exist, or is some kind of deception, because everyone <i>has</i> to be either straight or gay. I'm sorry that you've felt excluded like that. I wish you luck in your continued journey to find yourself. :-)<br /><br />Talking of conformity, I remember a gay male friend who hadn't come out until his forties confiding in me, "I did sometimes doubt whether I was truly gay, because I really, really don't like musicals."The Goldfishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-51171150051134043502014-02-09T18:31:21.464+00:002014-02-09T18:31:21.464+00:00heya! :)
this is an area of discussion I love!
I d...heya! :)<br />this is an area of discussion I love!<br />I don't believe in binary systems and that both gender and sexuality are a sliding scare that we both are on different places on. There is wonderful charts with scales out of 10 on between man and women with a central point that they give out in gender counselling. The idea is your birth sex is what you are born with and then your gender is somewhere on the line. Sexuality is also a scale I think.<br /><br />For me I do think about this a lot! this is because I am a gay guy who is feminine in gender and also disabled. This means that large sections of the gay community have issues with me because it's seen as a bad thing and they have issues with me because of disability. some sections of the gay community have big issues about both, I think probably worse than straight people.<br /><br />I am inbetween cis and trans and have friends of both. Being gay and feminine are things to work through and have caused distress in my life. some people never work out being gay and lesbian, although this is much better these days! But you do have to come to some form of acceptance.<br /><br />I guess what I am saying is that you might not think about being straght or cisgender much but some people who are also both, might! it's a matter of finding personal acceptance of exactly who we are! I have not found myself exactly.<br /><br />it's probable that people who are straight and cisgender have an easier time of it and with acceptance and don't get discrimination then perhaps other types of people but still it's possible.Danielhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09109883316676042103noreply@blogger.com