tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post5093463154862921306..comments2024-01-26T10:20:37.836+00:00Comments on Diary of a Goldfish: Bad FormThe Goldfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-5574237679604983592008-01-07T01:05:00.000+00:002008-01-07T01:05:00.000+00:00I definitely understand your frustration... it is ...I definitely understand your frustration... it is impossible to describe yourself in a few adjectives. Never mind the pressure of convincing the recipient of your legitimate needs! Hang in there...Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17786448310787488350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-8264204863092595662007-12-18T00:14:00.000+00:002007-12-18T00:14:00.000+00:00The other part of this that's so depressing is how...The other part of this that's so depressing is how much self pep talk we do with ourselves all the time. To get through the day, to set goals to work towards where maybe we'll be a bit better, to hide from others how bad things are... My whole life is about playing down my disabilities and pep-talking myself 24/7 so I don't throw myself under a bus.<BR/><BR/>And yet, when it comes time for these types of forms, I suddenly have to admit to every little thing I can't do. In great detail. Everything I've been lying to myself and everybody else about every single day. Everything I'm accustomed to hiding and NEVER focusing on. It's enormously painful. And then I have to put in writing that I will never be better, never be able to work, never be able to support myself... (All things which I still hope may change someday...) I feel horrible any time I have to do these forms. In the US we have to do them every 3 years and they are incredibly painful to do.<BR/><BR/>I hope yours get done and far far far out of the way asap.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-43200902182072601772007-12-17T06:43:00.000+00:002007-12-17T06:43:00.000+00:00Well done on the DLA form...just done one myself s...Well done on the DLA form...just done one myself so I sympathise! (I currently have an indefinite award of higher rate mobility and middle rate care - I want to see if they'll give me higher rate care). I love the wounded animal idea. Did you consider some strategically placed tearstains on each page, as well?Funky Mangohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12169019858118418939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-68471063973049774022007-12-16T21:41:00.000+00:002007-12-16T21:41:00.000+00:00'Bastard bastard bastard forms.'Well said!!'Bastard bastard bastard forms.'<BR/><BR/>Well said!!Philip.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01385613327362296432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-22077263828102159252007-12-16T17:42:00.000+00:002007-12-16T17:42:00.000+00:00Know just what you mean about having to list all t...Know just what you mean about having to list all the stuff you can't do instead of what you can! Just finished an IB50 which is much the same kind of stuff.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes, and good luck for a good outcome from LiverpoolMaggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13630530599678517169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-63487585971581017332007-12-15T11:41:00.000+00:002007-12-15T11:41:00.000+00:00well done for getting it finished, at any rate.I l...well done for getting it finished, at any rate.<BR/><BR/>I love the idea of pasting in a Poor Ickle Aminal on each page.<BR/><BR/>I don't know about you, but for me, part of the problem is that I tend to get quite emotionally involved with stuff I write, and my forms are at risk of becoming less "objective form-filling" and more "creative writing exercise" (I don't mean creative as in fictional... just as in thinking about use of vocab and so on to make it better to read). The only way I could really tackle it properly was to keep it as very short, precise, fill-in-here sentences, which was boring and repetitive but a lot less distressing.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11639094548415759560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-10921559298305782142007-12-15T03:45:00.000+00:002007-12-15T03:45:00.000+00:00Here's hoping you feel much beer soon.That's an ex...Here's hoping you feel much beer soon.<BR/><BR/>That's an excellent summary of The Evil Process. I would add that whilst writing all this down, what I am really thinking is "YES, I can work. I am educated and dedicated and motivated. I can work, if someone will hire me, provide the needed accommodations and not be scared away by the fact that health care is tied to employment and I am not just a terrible risk, but a foolhardy one, in that regard. But that won't happen, so, NO, I cannot work. Sign me back up again please."Kay Olsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04944108413520042042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-16456397953463620722007-12-14T20:39:00.000+00:002007-12-14T20:39:00.000+00:00I'm laughing even while I'm holding my stomach as ...I'm laughing even while I'm holding my stomach as it cramps sympathetically.<BR/><BR/>These processes are so very evil, even while they ostensibly exist to do good. How is this so? How?<BR/><BR/>But you finished. Brava! That's something to be proud of.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-24831506765115698112007-12-14T19:16:00.000+00:002007-12-14T19:16:00.000+00:00It is by far the most irksome, challenging, worryi...It is by far the most irksome, challenging, worrying and downright depressing task an ill person who could really do without all the above has to face.<BR/>But it's done. Gone. And hopefully not to be faced again for a good while now (which in itself is a depressing thought I know, but I really do hope you can just forget about it and they leave you alone to do what you do best...which is not dwell on all the negative feelings the bastard DLA form stirs up).seahorsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04006649663400552591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-10876402099661712682007-12-14T17:45:00.000+00:002007-12-14T17:45:00.000+00:00Well right on to you too. No it's not being bulli...Well right on to you too. <BR/><BR/>No it's not being bullied with the DLA forms --- apart from when they stop it after a period of years and nothing has changed on your side but aparently they feel justified in making you re-apply ---- but its still jolly irksome and, as you say, depressing to have to contemplate and set out all the negatives of your life instead of being able to concentrate on the positives. That's why the insurance stuff is getting me down really. I just want to resolve the whole busines and move on.<BR/><BR/>Anyroadup in a week or so it'll be Christmas so all the pen-pusher's offices will closed down for a bit and we can sleep safely in our beds waiting for Santa and hoping the DWP cronies and Insurance bods only get a second hand sock (one !) and a past-its -date satsuma in their stockings.<BR/><BR/>Bah Humbug !Cusphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10717783581169397585noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-13535004829805354632007-12-14T15:55:00.000+00:002007-12-14T15:55:00.000+00:00Dearest GoldfishI was going to comment on 'Because...Dearest Goldfish<BR/><BR/>I was going to comment on 'Because your're worth it' something deeply appreciative, spiritual even, but me brain wouldn't let me, so just to say ... BASTARD DLA/insurance companies/lurgy ... and the 'dull and gruesome' bits of daily life that are really just NOT ON that we should not only have to put up with the indignity, share it with our significant others, but also have to justify the necessities to the bastard dla/social services/insurance companies ... <BR/>BUT<BR/>we are witness to the fact that however deeply down, discombobulated or downright raging angry we are about it all, we are here, and so remain,<BR/>giving support and gaining support.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes !<BR/><BR/>Happy Christmas, love and hugs, and thanks for your insight, wisdom and presence.Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08223682934383856392noreply@blogger.com