tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post4291173840619880339..comments2024-01-26T10:20:37.836+00:00Comments on Diary of a Goldfish: The Goldfish Guide to Dealing With Doubters #3The Goldfishhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15213378454070776331noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-19042074134871783702009-03-28T12:25:00.000+00:002009-03-28T12:25:00.000+00:00When I got to the bottom and read your note I had ...When I got to the bottom and read your note I had to laugh since you were reading my mind!<BR/>I love this post- I do get your posts on my reader but for some reason not unless I go right to you on my list. The mysteries of the computer!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-1674921243060405412009-03-22T22:55:00.000+00:002009-03-22T22:55:00.000+00:00Thanks.I recently received "Gee, you don't look di...Thanks.<BR/><BR/>I recently received "Gee, you don't look disabled." (I was seated). I smiled tightly, saying, "Gee, you don't look ignorant."<BR/><BR/>My favourite when producing a parking placard: "Wow, that's a perk." To which I said, "Want a perk?...Try a brain."<BR/><BR/>Your "You look like shit, oh the irony" is priceless!<BR/><BR/>Your point about power/dominance is well taken.<BR/><BR/>Great Blog!ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-56566312831202198942009-03-12T02:53:00.000+00:002009-03-12T02:53:00.000+00:00I wondered what you meant about the power thing fo...I wondered what you meant about the power thing for quite a while. Understanding you now, I feel quite incensed that people who are supposed to love me are really just trying to score petty little victories like all the time. It all makes sense. I think I'll just stay in my greenhouse away from toxic people.seahorsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04006649663400552591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-35283637806909487232009-03-01T19:23:00.000+00:002009-03-01T19:23:00.000+00:00You rock. Seriously. and I have added "And you lo...You rock. Seriously. <BR/><BR/>and I have added "And you look like shit, oh the irony" to my personal arsenal for dealing with some choice people in my world. <BR/><BR/>Thank you thank you thank you.<BR/><BR/>I needed this today!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-40630404140190306352009-03-01T17:29:00.000+00:002009-03-01T17:29:00.000+00:00I hadn't thought about how much these comments are...I hadn't thought about how much these comments are about power, and I appreciate you mentioning it. <BR/><BR/>Hi fishy!Never That Easyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04008749218695113192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10557263.post-88367207729688552532009-02-28T05:34:00.000+00:002009-02-28T05:34:00.000+00:00As an "SLD" type (and, ok, one with "behavioral is...As an "SLD" type (and, ok, one with "behavioral issues" I often say that the worst thing someone can say (doubt/power) is "you just need to try harder" - immediately declaring that the difference between them and me is that I'm lazy or uninterested.<BR/><BR/>So yes, these remarks are "all about power." All about making themselves superior.<BR/><BR/>So I deeply appreciate your advice: "Far better to act like you're not particularly upset but point out that they've been an idiot. That their behaviour is unacceptable in a wider sense. Make them feel crass, rather than cruel." I'll have to give this a try.<BR/><BR/>- Ira Socolirasocolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01412837280249622430noreply@blogger.com